by S.A. Prince
The holidays are upon us, and this time of the year is undoubtedly one of the most exciting. There’s a price that comes with that emotional spike though, and maybe some of you, like me, are feeling it now. When we open ourselves up to the incredible highs, vibes, and good feelings associated with the season, we unfortunately also open ourselves up to an incredible low, depression.
This volatile emotional pendulum swing is associated with a Hermetic Principle called The Law of Polarity. In one of the Hermetic’s ancient books, The Law of Polarity is described as “Everything is dual; everything has poles; everything has its pair of opposites; like and unlike are the same; opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree; extremes meet; all truths are but half-truths; all paradoxes may be reconciled.”
In layman’s terms, it’s nothing to shift from one pole to the other. Happiness and depression like love and hate, or cold and hot, is along the same pole. The only difference between the two is a degree of variation, giving credence to the old school saying, “There’s a thin line between love and hate.”
And so, we struggle with happiness this time of the year. Some medical experts have given this phenomenon a name. They call it Seasonal Affective Depression. You’ll see countless articles written about seasonal depression, but nobody gets down to the root of the problem. In true doctor form, they simply offer up solutions to deal with the symptoms as oppose to addressing the problem at its core.
As somebody who struggles emotional well-being during this time of the year, I won’t play that game with you.
The dramatic emotional swing that so many of us experience is a form of self-sabotage. It is a violence intrinsic thrashing against ourselves stemming from comparison.
While comparing is beneficial to society and helps us grow, it is also a great hindrance. Comparison is a way of confirming that something is not good enough, that it can be better. It is a glass half-empty approach to life, because without a solid plan of action behind it, comparison doesn’t give us something to build on, rather it shows us where we fall short and lack.
Comparing is a form of violence. The act itself rips our self-esteem to shreds. It makes us ask ourselves, “Am I worthy of happiness?” “Do I deserve to be happy?”
We may not say this out loud. I certainly don’t say it out loud, but I’m definitely thinking it.
Imagine how social media highlights this form of violence. Twitter, Facebook and Instagram are literally battlegrounds of the mind. Their timelines are the front lines in the war on self. We compare our lives to those around us as they describe it to us in self-aggrandizing statuses and a flood of carefully selected photos designed to present their life experience in a glorious light.
So, how do we escape and remove our emotional well-being from this damning pendulum?
Acceptance has the stopping power to halt the damaging effects of comparison in their tracks. Embrace your life and where it’s at. Feel free to not go on social media. Don’t even pull your phone out. Heck, take pictures with an old school Polaroid camera.
In other words: Give Zero Fucks.
Who you are is beautiful. Don’t let anybody else tell you differently.
The world’s intention (or rather ulterior motive) is to make you feel less than whole. When you compare, the natural response is not only to feel down, but to do something drastic to try and feel better. It is this tension that corporations and governments expose, attempting to take advantage of your emotional vulnerability. Hence, Black Friday, the biggest shopping day of the year slammed in between the two biggest holidays of the year.
Peep the games that are being played.
Who you are right now, and in this moment, is more than enough. You are beautifully and wonderfully made, and your experience is unique. Choose to be happy this holiday season through embracing and accepting who you are.